Another angle in this specific holidayhas been brewing for a while. Im the counselor in charge of calling speakers for Mothers Day. When chocolate is handed out, our children end up begging for it but its the one day I wont share. This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. Get plenty HPs and Elders. Idealsno, no maam not for me. Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. How cool someone reading my rambling! Alma 56:47-48. All women were given a 'present' which looked like a flower or something, I didn't inspect it; many men and women took extra ones to give to any mother or lady in the neighborhood, single, mother, any sister or non member. http://mormonartist.net/2012/02/day-three-jeanna-stay/. I know some women get upset because they arent mothers, but it doesnt bother me. #37 Now that you mention it, Uchtdorf is pretty Hallmarky. Id like to see the swords beaten into plow shares this mothers day And for once ( just once) the SAHM vs working mom verbal cat claws retracted. Then they would close by saying that it was the most wonderful blessing imaginable. No love in mortality comes closer to approximating the pure love of Jesus Christ than the selfless love a devoted mother has for her child.. Even though Mothers Day is now a reasonably happy day for me personally, I still find that my mind is focused on how other women in my ward might be experiencing it. Why can't we let women celebrate it how they want at home and focus on Christ at church? I get fed up listening every year to only men saying how wonderful their wives and mothers are. Maybe we should do it eucharistic-like so I dont have to feel guilty? Im sure that attendance in RS would be higher on that day though. It hits pretty close because Im one of those lucky people who get to speak on Mothers Day this year. This talk by Sheri Dew focuses on how motherhood is for all women, regardless if they have children or not. I actually think its good to celebrate both Mothers and Fathers Days with the caveat to be sensitive to the feelings of those who have difficulty with that celebration. *As I type this, I know for a fact that someone out there is going to respond that their ward gives men plants for Fathers Day every year. I still dont understand it, which is probably why Im still very nervous about having kids. Men tended to speak about angel mothers who bore no resemblance to mine. We should not celebrate anything unless it is universally acknowledged around the world. The only thing I might try if I were in charge would be to put out pink, white, red carnations and safety pins and invite everyone in the ward to wear a carnation to honor their mother pink/red if shes living, white if shes passed away. My husband told me to stop focusing on myself and think about who mothered me instead. In order to equally celebrate Fatherhood , the males (12 years+) all get Nachos on Fathers Day (served up by the RS Presidency.). As the son of a mother who was destroyed every Mothers Day, and seeing many similar experiences here, I plan to stick to the Christ-centric meeting next year. However, like you, I thought Fathers Day was a done and done. In one of my wards, the women of the congregation were given wooden spoons as their gifts at the end of the meeting. 2. I also choose to focus on the women in the scriptures like #30 has mentioned. But since youre not, Im bowing out this year. I found out the hard way after a long list of them declined to give the talk. Ive lived in numerous family wards, and Ive never gotten as much as a crumb for Fathers Day, at least not from church. The primaries (100 of them? Im even okay when they hand out plants. I wanted to know more, so here are his thoughts. 41 Fear not, little children, for you are mine, and I have overcome the world, and you are of them that my Father hath given me; 42 And none of them that my Father hath given me shall be lost.. Further, that it wasnt the wards responsibility to celebrate the day. The third tells of a mother who helped her daughter with a disability at a temple dedication. May the blessings of heaven rest upon you. Its impossible to please everyone. Thank you for writing this blog post. Tracy M posted an amazing video that deals with the general concept of this post in a really insightful way. Worst Moms Day talk ever: when we (and most of our friends) were newlyweds, one of our friends (a guy) was asked to give the big glory of motherhood talk. What a nice gift for a Mom..hey, you guys have a great time!! Alece, All Latter-day Saint Youth Need to Hear Ready to Rise, Popular Rapper Says He Wants to Be Baptized into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, FREE I Can Do All Things Through Christ Sheet Music + Music Video, Latter-day Saint Missionaries Perform Is There Room, Official 2023 Youth Theme Music Video: I Can Do All Things Through Christ, Popular Rapper Says He Wants to Be Baptized into The Church. Ugh. We go to church to grow closer to the Savior, not to get treats or recognition. on Mothers Day and donate it to a womens shelter. My wife spoke on Mothers Day (which I originally thought was a bad choice, because she herself appears to the outside world to be the perfect mother) about her own mother and some of the simple things her mother had done for her that made a big difference in her life and how grateful she was. The responsibility mothers have today has never required more vigilance. I plan to skip church on Mothers Day morning to visit my mother in the home and I will receive my Masters Degree that afternoon! Our HC speaker will be talking about forgiveness this Sunday at the special request of our Leadership. As a member of our bishopric, I assigned the topics for this weeks talks, all motherhood focused, and I have forwarded your paragraph with Elder Eyrings quote to each of them. Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests.. She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. Most of us brought up to beleive that the man of the home was were it was at. Not that I am anything special, but I gave a Mother's Day talk when I was a bishop that was so well-received even my own mother loved it. It spoke to the special importance of mothers to their children, but also made clear that as with other mistakes, the effects of mothers failings can absolutely be healed by the Atonement. I loved it! We are an outlandishly weird, mixed up bunch of folk. Sacrament Meetings - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints The first speaker was my favorite. I too am irritated by mother-worshipping in MD talks, but at the same time, I think many Mormon women identify so strongly with being a mother and so many have sacrificed just about everything to focus on that specific role, that they really appreciate a little validation, a little boost of confidence that what theyre doing is significant and has meaning. Women have mothers too! Are you looking for the best LDS talks on motherhood? I just spent two hours reading all the comments, viewing the video mentioned in #90, and taking notes. Its a complete set-up for failure. However, Uchtdorf also gets women and articulates that better than most. I dont remember all 18 things, but two of them stuck with me, even 15 years later. Ere the sun goes down. And this is all in addition to the everyday problems like getting the bills paid and the laundry done. The primary children sing and we are making a mothers day gift in primary. There was nothing you could do that would ever make you feel like she didnt love you, but she always told you the truth about your behavior and was not afraid to be entirely real with you even when you wanted to lie to yourself. It has been another hellish week, reminding me of all my faults and short-comings as a mother, all that went wrong for me as a daughter, and it has all brought me a liitle closer to God, who is repeatedly teaching me that one-size-does-not-fit-all, or most or even many. May your prayers be answered and your hopes and dreams become realities.. Now, I detest it. I think its terribly sad that growing up Mormon, I never heard anyone make any serious attempt to talk about Heavenly Mother on Mothers Day. My bishop knows where its at, and we always get Dove bars, Milk for those of unrefined taste and Dark for the rest of us. I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. But as for now no praise deserved but the praze to the heavenly Father. It seems like awareness and knowing your audience as mentioned before, is half the battle. I would expect him to give a talk like that because he is so utterly black and white in his thinking and he never heard a strict utterance over the pulpit that he did not love. The worst talk I ever heard came from a woman who described how her mother used to sit by her during piano lessons. How did your Mother's Day Sacrament meeting turnout, Rockpond? I just pray that the spirit can convey the message that seems so exciting in my heart. Even men who are on diets. It isnt uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. I struggled with infertility for nearly a decade. The only Mothers Day event for another church Im aware of is when a friend told me that in her church the main talk is always about Christ no matter what holiday it is, but when its just the women the speaker will focus on motherhood and Christs teaching about mothers. Heres my updated version: Im so glad when Daddy comes home, As for me, I will be sitting this Mothers day out. Sometime in the mid-1990s, I went to the ward library after sacrament meeting to obtain materials for teaching a lesson. Theologies have consequences. I'd suggest that women at various stages in their lives speaking about what the joy in womanhood, being a divine daughter of God means to them in different stages of life, would at least eliminate all that talk and honor of mothers who have lots of children and do everything right that cause so much pain to women everywhere. Is this really the Mothers Day message I need? Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? We are confabbing about how to turn the tables on Hallmark. I believe the best thing a man can do is not to love his wife in word, but to help her find and be and become whatever she truly wants to be and become outside of her role as mother. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? Sisters would come up to me and express that MD was hard for them also for various reasonsone was abused by her mother while another friend had lost a mother she loved as a teenager so cried all day long. After a lot of thought and prayer I called two sisters to speak on some of the blessings and also the challenges of raising children in the gospel. Ann (#76), Im sorry to hear about your mothers passing. Motherhood is more than bearing children, though it is certainly that. Julie B. Beck reminds women what it means to be a mother who knows listing a number of attributes, including the principles of bearing children, honoring sacred covenants, nurturing others, doing less, teaching, and leading. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. I chuckled, but was not surprised when I saw that chocolate was the most popular! Mothers Day was open so I said ok, I will come up with something appropriate. She worked during the day and took classes at night, and created a home for her children where they knew love. This talk teaches us how rearing up children in righteousness can help keep them safe in an increasingly wicked world and how what happens in the home can benefit communities and nations. As far as Jesus is concerned, he was sinless so is able to stand as an ideal. The broken bread is a reminder of His body and His physical sufferingespecially His suffering on the cross. I wish you were speaking in my ward! Love your mother, my young sisters. It would just be nice to complete our idealism with a good dose of reality. Mothers Day is celebrated, and increasingly commercialized, but my impression of the local situation is that ones obligation to honor ones mother is largely discharged at home. I agree with the chocolate, lack of talks, and the third hour refreshments! Just asking. Mark did as well in his postminus the saccharine and accent. It just screamed, whoops, we forgot to order flowers in time and ran out to walmart last night and bought up whatever womanly thing we could find. Be patient with her imperfections, for she has them. Why do *we* have to have an ideal? 3. I havent had a bad Mothers Day since I divorced my ex and the day stopped being about making my kids miserable so that he could appear to be a good husband. But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. I totally agree. Let's apply your logic standard to other holidays. Nourishing both body and souls.Just my humble opinion. by Leading Saints | Apr 27, 2016 | Articles, Bishops, Elders Quorum, Relief Society | 21 comments, In 2016 Leading Saints conducted a survey about ward mothers day gifts. a large group) sang to the mothers. Please Please Please! My own plan of attack: 1) lay some knowledge on people (see above), 2) talk about our own mothers and that they are real people who faced real struggles, 3) the Plan of Happiness (is that what were calling it now?) My son Dan was married June 13 about a week ago. So Im on for Mothers Day and have been assigned Julie Becks talk on the history of Relief Society as topic. Ere the sun goes down, Until I see a longer lasting cease fire, Im staying home MD (with my mother and daughters). #93 Ruth Our old ward in NY would take the funds normally used to purchase flowers, chocolate, etc. Others must be killed or theyll live forever, injuring regular folk. His topic? In this case it will likely be mothers, and the Primary kids will sing, too. Home & Family. May 2011 was the best mothers day sacrament mtg Ive ever attended.
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