I'm really surprised that everyone is saying "It's just a kiss" and to not tell the SO. I mean that in a funny way. Actually I really don't have any experience at all. It felt so wrong and taboo yet so erotic and a sort of thrilling jealousy! I'm trying - with the utmost seriousness and sincerity - to advise you to keep your relationship rap-sheet completely squeaky clean. If it in the meantime hits a nerve and makes you uncomfortable or even gets you all het up, that's your problem, not mine. Why would you want to do that? If you kissed someone while you were drunk then perhaps you are worried about doing it again. Just, why leave yourself open if you don't have to. Confide in someone you trust. My husband always encouraged me to pursue music, and, when I told him that this guy wanted to give me advanced piano lessons, my husband was in favor of this. Assistir Chelsea X Leeds - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. I've never gone to a counsellor before, but I'm going to see one next week to talk through it. What would people say if she'd slept with someone else? I rather throw it all out in the openbe honestapologize for my mistakeand be ready for the consequences. I know I cheated for sure, and thats why I had to confess to my husband that I did it. When we went to bed that night, I started crying because I realized what had happened and I felt confused and guilty all at the same time. Bad things happen.Yes.but wat i d recomnd u is NEVER EVER tell him ! SOULMATE NO URGE :-8 I'm sensing nose in the air LOL You must see The Grand Canyon, New York- Theater/Art so much raw talent, Can you tthan please explain this? DON'T: Kiss and tell to someone you're kissing. Then you must be doing it wrong. I have posted a vent and been waiting for your scathing reply. "and though he immediately pulled away". I dont know what else to do. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! Just my thoughts having been a victim of cheating. I don't see any good coming from me confessing, only hurt and upset and doubt, and think my time would be better spent working on my relationship, and working through the issues that are putting so much pressure on us at the moment. I cannot tell you how much I love my boyfriend and how shocked I am about this. I'm dating this guy and have been for about 2 months. Which may not seem like a big deal for some of you. Be the adult here. response. I said to my husband, I have something to tell you, but I dont know how to say it.. stop any contact (outside of work) immediately. It really depends on the dynamics of your relationship though. And as for our original subject, who knows maybe she told him. I'm 5 years married to my best friend. Do you want to end you marriage? So it looks as if we're suddenly at crossed-purposes, then. If this is bothering you, then tell him. I dont want him to be thinking that I am a cheat. Please leave me a comment. [2] ..you showed you don't think of he and you as a team by sharing all information pertinent to the relationship; A couple of nights ago I went out to a work function. True mistakes get owned and rectified. It happened two days ago. SO if you shouldn't, then A) you should be able to tell him, and B) if he's the type to hit the roof over a kiss, he's a wee bit paranoid for his own good, and it wouldn't be *your* fault. PS: Don't ever drop it, will you. It was the most thrilling feeling I ever had watching my wife kiss and make out with another guy. Though somehow I think there might have been trouble in the marriage. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Already have an account? Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. I think my husband will not forgive me. this guy only tried to kiss you so as far as you cheating on him there is no and your appropriate response was toback away and leave the guy standing. He's seemingly petrified I'm going to throw him out, he's cried three times today already and they're only the second time I've ever seen him cry in four years. I'm going to keep my distance from my work colleague and I'm going to ensure nothing like this ever happens again. What? Does she feel guilty over leaving me for another guy? When you feel guilty for hurting someone you love, holding in those feelings makes it worse. What should I do. Sorry Soulmate I know I need to stop,but it's hard to. Tell boyfriend another guy tried to kiss me? - GirlsAskGuys Thinking of it over and over again will affect you mentally, and make it worse. One way to get over the guilt would be to prove to yourself that it will never happen again. But please seperate the issues. What To Know About Buster Murdaugh, Alex Murdaugh's Only Surviving Son We've been together a lot of today for various reasons, we've talked a little but as of right now, officially I'm still "thinking things over." But maybe I should have My thoughts are that he has been persuing her. So many arguments begin because our partners got drunk and kissed someone else while they were under the influence of alcohol. The first step to a broken loyalty is a first kiss. Make lemonade out of them. This thread has expired - why not start your own? I can't get into his FB directly but I accessed his hotmail and read the notification. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A Okay if it was me who did that even thou I dont drink Ill first ask him as if its someone else who did it, like a friend or a colleague and if he overracts then think again but if hes all cool about it then break ice. Go to a therapist if you think it could help you work through why this has appealed so much. I was correct, she struggles with trust. In that sort of scenario, where the kiss (or any intimate contact) lingers for more than half a second - or, put more simply, isn't the kind you'd feel comfortable giving/receiving from your own parent or grandparent - it's an opening of the door, whether or not you subsequently recover your senses and slam it shut again. Come join the discussion about love, romance, health, behavior, conflict resolution, care, and more! Mercy got too drunk, Cintia was drunk but she was ok so far. For me, to feel guilty about having sex with someone, while in a relationship with someone else, I must have remorse. If you are carrying so much guilt, it's generally a sign that you care a lot about someone and you are really sorry for what you have done- perhaps he realises this. If I receive a text from someone that is flirtatious in anyway, I test the person back and tell them that I do not want anymore flirtatious texts and if we are friends then they need to respect my relationship. If I some how knew which thread to follow to I'd go. You confessed your sins. How To Cope With Guilt When You Hurt Someone In A Relationship We were chatting when we realised the other woman was snoring. It's not worth the headaches, nausea, acid reflux, stomach pain, or insomnia you may be experiencing. The next time you saw your significant other you might have blurted out, I have a confession to make. Once was after we'd had a bit of a heavy talk earlier, and the other two were after we dropped one of the little ones off at the grandparents and he started talking about if it gets easier to leave a child (ie when you have weekend contact and you have to drop the child back off at the end of it.). (I bet many would not kiss & TELL -as it would only invite chaos in their marraiges). Tico Franklin, now 40, faced the death . if you believe you have to tell him exactly as you did here , if your friends you were with are also his say he can ask them . I guess it's the nature of the topic - emotive yet one of those Grey areas. The caller wasn't experienced (like me). Live with the soul crushing guilt you earned, or lose your BF. My husband wasnt home at the time. 5. To tell versus Not to tell (and everything that has a bearing). But we can get through it together if you are truley remoreseful. :), Ah cawlled *you* 'sistah', dun't mean Ah iz wurn too, 'kayyy, shugah? For starters, you've no way of knowing whether this other woman *was* genuinely asleep or whether she might gossip to someone who goes and gossips to someone else, etc.. Plus, you don't know what this bloke might choose to do or whom he might blurt it out to the next time he gets drunk (back and forth male posturing on a lads' night out, for example)! / Houston, turns out I/you/I+You can't have kids the natural way after all, which is no-one's fault; let's try IVF / adopt / foster / console ourselves with the fact we'll always have each other, and the babies of people we know to borrow, and the freedom and greater financial means to please ourselves. He left and went to the lake. He is my workmate also. 2023 FemaleFirst Ltd. all rights reserved. in all the years we are together I have never ever done anything like this before, and I can say with confidence I will never allow myself to end up in any situation that could lead to anything even close to this again. At least I understood why our marriage failed and no further closure was needed. That's a long time for kissing. Hi Scope! I felt a mixture of excitement and flattery and nerves. Is Kissing Someone When Drunk Cheating? | Relationship Talk It's quick, easy, free and you don't have to leave your real name. I went out for drinks in town last night and got extremely drunk and kissed another man, it only lasted not even a few seconds but I feel so so so guilty and wish I could take it back. You reap what you sow. She said this is how it starts. A certain someone might read it. You can confess to your significant other and accept the consequences, knowing that you might hurt your partner by confessing. I think you already knew what you wanted to do, your husband was not home, saw an opportunity, and wanted to use being drunk as a cover story. Being married is something that can be quite complicated at times. He was so drunk himself that he started singing I Love Paris and, in the middle of the song, he said in a gruff voice, You wanna kiss me? As for what we believe about kissing being the gateway to sex (specifically foreplay, which itself is the main gate): if anyone believes it *isn't*, thenwellAll I could say to that is: Boyfriend kissed another guy at a gay bar with me for my fantasy, i Even despite it included you having to become whatever degree of a low-down doity adulterer. When he finally called me up, he said that he needed to stay away from me, much as he enjoyed teaching me music, he felt that the next time we met, things could get even worse and he didnt want to destroy my marriage. Maybe you didnt deliberately set out to kiss him or her, but you feel guilty about the kiss because you realize you always wanted to kiss that person, but were afraid to kiss because you harbored hidden feelings for that person. Have another little thinkipoos (with or without a little drinkipoos). I wasn't there but news travelled fast and I knew about it through friends by the next morning. Perhaps this one is geared more toward the ladies, but I feel pretty confident in assuming that no matter the . You werent totally bombed out of your mind, so you realized what you did and you felt guilty about it. No, if it's sensible debate, based on *facts* rather than wishful thinking, that's fine. JavaScript is disabled. But living a lie would be so much worse. LGBTYouTube stars Bria Kam and Chrissy Chambers (BriaAndChrissy) have released a videoexploring what its like for straight guys to kiss other men for the first time. Houston, this team needs to rectify the causes or agree to seek outside help in it whilst this one team member needs to atone for having almost embarked on a hurtful and potentially damaging test unilaterally without her teammate's consent. He has morals. In fact, you dont even have to tell your partner what you did because it was an innocent kiss. male I certainly wouldnt throw him under the bus -just yet. After all she did say that the kiss lasted for maybe 5 minutes. Changing jobs or departments and without delay, those things that aren't rocket science, is definitely what I as a fractionally betrayed partner would call you putting your rueful money where your rueful mouth is - enough to help reassure permanently. When I woke up yesterday I still felt drunk but the reality of what happened hit me like a tonne of bricks. We have only been seeing each other for the past two months and I dont want his mind racing with bad thoughts. California coastal beeches will leave you saying -America not too shabby.. Can't take anything from South of France-doesn't everybody go there? In the end you're the one who knows your boyfriend and whether he would like to know about something like that or not. female I love him so much and feel totally ashamed at what happened over the weekend in what was a drunken moment at at a party.I got drunk and kissed another boy. Scopes: Yes, the kids are the real victims. Hello, TheBestAdvice: Im glad you thought my post was intelligent and that you could relate to it. My piano teacher didnt behave like his normal, reserved self and he made suggestive comments to me. Get the help you need from a therapist near youa FREE service from Psychology Today. For me i felt guilty for enjoying it so much. What are you going to do, then? But you sounded like you were willing to take it farther with him,and risk it all. Better safe than sorry. And he grabbed my waist!. It's mos becoming serious and we really like each other! Drop it in CASUALLY, as part of general chit-chat, like it's no big thing (because if it's no biggie to you then that must mean it isn't and wasn't any threat to him), and in such a way as draws similarities with his own past incident. Now that you got drunk, you feel justified in kissing that person because you got drunk and couldnt help yourself. Once my tennis coach misread me, came into my house, and gave a peck on my cheeks, in India, kissing is not a social gesture. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. male And yes I do still believe either directly or indirectly, mouth to mouth, tongue swapping French kissing caressing lead to sex. So if your planting includes a blight (guilty secret), please don't moan if it affects the crop yield. She has just sent a private message to him on FB. I put a blanket over her and sat back down next to the man. Hang on because I'm sure there will be other people who believe differently from me. Or do I? I believe that its a good thing to fess up when kissing someone you care about when you drank too much could threaten your existing relationship. I also could not fathom if you were ACTUALLY being serious or just having a laugh at her expense..alone in your tracky bottoms in your living room. By clicking 'Accept and continue' you consent to our use of cookies in accordance with your preferences which can be reviewed / updated at any time via our Privacy Policy. I stopped and said I couldn't kiss him anymore cause I was dating someone I really liked Am I a terrible person? I am 100% sure he will forgive you and will love you even more for telling him (which you should have done A LONG TIME AGO). Kissing After Divorce: Can You Handle It? - Divorced Girl Smiling I guess kissing another when married, with or without the other knowing about it is a sore subject. I knew you liked him/her. He's a work colleague by the way, and we would get on well in work but have no contact outside of work). Later, he tried to make out and I said no because I felt it was wrong.I told him I needed a uber. I gave up playing tennis with him. I wanted to go further with him, but I didnt nor did he push for anything more. Your Drinking Behaviour. I'm not telling him because I don't want to mess this up. You do risk upset feelings as a consequence. (Got me cracked) 24 So she left after a couple of replies. Don't hurt him any more than you already have. The Guilt I Felt Kissing Another Man While My Partner Watched For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding. (I wonder why.) I'm married, but kissed another man - PeoplesProblems.org My husband went ballistic and said, I just knew something like this was going to happen. Evidently. I kissed another girl while black out drunk, dont remember a thing. My eyes were closed and my head was spinning. Asked how the kiss was, Brodieeven says: It wasnt bad, its actually better than a few of my exes. Which probably makes you wonder why I came here in the first place. lover. Now is that thread on this site (people's problems)? I am the nicest person on earth and so is my boyfriend. i cried for days on and my bf couldnt figure out was . He is a good person and a good husband and I love him very much. If the reaction is strong, then maybe dont say anything. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. But I can't leave my job. I totally regret my actions and cannot bear to tell my boyfriend. "then the cheeky ugger only went and bloody kissed me, didn't he! Kissed another man four years ago and NOW feeling guilty. She confessed to loving the experience and enjoyed the thrill knowing she had her husbands permission and he was watching her. Wow, you really do want a baby, don't you. I like the soft smooth touch of a woman and her sexy smell while iam kissing her with passion, if there is a romantic connection it's even better. Cheaters remorse. Kissed another man four years ago and NOW feeling guilty. I hadn't been out drinking for about 3 months beforehand, so think the excitement of the night, constant glasses prosecco and wine, and the buzz of just being all dolled up all mixed together to see me very giddy and tipsy. [3] you couldn't extend to him the same courtesy he'd already extended to *you* (i.e. Past is something you cannot change. Thank you. Houston, well, whaddayaknow - I'M PREGNANT! If you we're my girlfriend and it was years ago and never happened again I would not want to know. When Having A Crush While In A Relationship Is OK (And When - HuffPost Its hard to know what to say, especially if youre fuzzy about what happened. Before you close I'd like to say that I totally agree with you. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. They say don't tell the wife or husband about the infidelity, because it would cause more hurt. (That'll do me nicely! I know it was wrong and I regret it all. What is he supposed to do with this information? With the other woman just across the room! It should prevent you from repeating your actions. But, I did find out that I was attracted to my piano teacher. You're denying him that right and being selfish. Such as crying,begging that would be enough for me to give them a second chance. It's not that big of a deal anyway and you aren't going to do it again. Lets get down to the basics here. Your guilt is your punishment. Try-it-on, cheating sleazebag makes pass at loyally-married woman; Everyone makes mistakes and it's how you deal with them afterwards that is the most important thing. You'll have to accept it, face up to it, and put it behind you. It's good that you're willing to forgive,most women would divorce. And Brodie groped James. We are together 12 years altogether and although I had boyfriends before him, it was never serious, and he is the only man I've ever slept with. This guy wouldnt take money from me (I should have seen this as a Red Flag, but didnt), so I bought him opera scores in order to compensate him for his time and expertise. Houston? It's good you feel guilty, that means your not cheating pond scum. I was very drunk. So, you went to a party and everyone was drinking. (*'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. I kissed another man four years ago. Myself and the man were sitting next to each other on the couch, and the other woman was sitting on another couch at the other side of the room.